Assumptions and Behaviorism
I had a training recently, which was also attended by the head of the company. The invitation was 1.30pm, but the organiser Whatsapp'd everyone to come latest by 1.45pm, due to late prayer time now. I rushed through my prayer; mind you removing the makeup before, and reapplying all in that 15 minutes window, and successfully reached the door at 1.45pm. I saw a crowd gather at the door, and was trying to make my way through when I heard the head shouting about how everyone was late and being disrespectful. The organisers were all there, not a single person spoke up to explain the change of time, and the time itself. Apparently his watch was showing 1.50pm, and he thinks that everyone is 20 minutes late!
What I learn from this were these:
1. Check myself, before pouncing on others. Don't you know that your watch is 5 minutes earlier than the whole world's? One guy did try to explain, but he didn't even pause to listen. Were you angry about some other issues and just dodging that anger to others who do not deserve it?
2. As an organiser, when you want to organise a training such as this, or maybe even a meeting, you need to consider all aspects. Lunch is at 12.30 to 1.30pm. You know yourself as a Muslim, that Dzuhur comes at 1.30pm and you need at least 10 minutes with God. So why did you organise a training at 1.30pm, knowing well that everyone will not make it? And if you have decided to change the time, why didn't you formally change it in the calendar?
3. Warn to not repeat the mistake in that instance, but do not prolong. He was still angry and threatening everyone about being late the next day on the company-wide Whatsapp (just shows that the organiser was still timidly hiding the fact that the whole chaos was because of the change of time they failed to communicate effectively)
4. Sometimes the show of power is not with how you threaten or how you shout. Power and respect usually comes when people recognise how good you are as a leader. The company did so well last year. We are doing so well in the 2 months this year. That shows already how good a leader you are, so don't spoil that perspective by cheap threats. You are only attracting hatred.
Anyways, I am so glad it is Friday today. It'll be a busy weekend, starting tonight with my bestfriend's family Mehndi. An Indian wedding tomorrow morning at 11am, and another wedding at night. We are also moving some of our stuffs to the new house on Sunday. So I hope we start next week fresh. Peace!
What I learn from this were these:
1. Check myself, before pouncing on others. Don't you know that your watch is 5 minutes earlier than the whole world's? One guy did try to explain, but he didn't even pause to listen. Were you angry about some other issues and just dodging that anger to others who do not deserve it?
2. As an organiser, when you want to organise a training such as this, or maybe even a meeting, you need to consider all aspects. Lunch is at 12.30 to 1.30pm. You know yourself as a Muslim, that Dzuhur comes at 1.30pm and you need at least 10 minutes with God. So why did you organise a training at 1.30pm, knowing well that everyone will not make it? And if you have decided to change the time, why didn't you formally change it in the calendar?
3. Warn to not repeat the mistake in that instance, but do not prolong. He was still angry and threatening everyone about being late the next day on the company-wide Whatsapp (just shows that the organiser was still timidly hiding the fact that the whole chaos was because of the change of time they failed to communicate effectively)
4. Sometimes the show of power is not with how you threaten or how you shout. Power and respect usually comes when people recognise how good you are as a leader. The company did so well last year. We are doing so well in the 2 months this year. That shows already how good a leader you are, so don't spoil that perspective by cheap threats. You are only attracting hatred.
Anyways, I am so glad it is Friday today. It'll be a busy weekend, starting tonight with my bestfriend's family Mehndi. An Indian wedding tomorrow morning at 11am, and another wedding at night. We are also moving some of our stuffs to the new house on Sunday. So I hope we start next week fresh. Peace!
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